A Day In the Life of Nolan: 1/14- Rant! Hookah hookah! Batman!

Today..
Hmm.

Well, I woke up in a bad mood, actually.

Here's why!

I posted this picture a couple days ago, with the title,
"Dat feel when you drive your crush and her boyfriend home from a party."

It was that night where I picked up a girl that I have a crush on, along with her boyfriend, and took her home.

Now remember, I have multiple crushes right now.
I'm not trying to date all of them or anything.
It's just being emotionally interested in a couple people, without actively trying to get with them or anything.
Gotta make that clear.

Liking multiple people doesn't make me a player.
If I was toying with all their emotions.. That'd make me a player.
But I don't do that.

Just had to get that disclaimer out there.

ANYWAY.

Her designated driver got drunk. So I was her ride!

Now, I was fine with that. I don't mind.

But..
Well, here is the ensuing conversation that evolved from that post.

Keep in mind, "crypticdarkness" is me.

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[–]crypticdarkness[S] 4 points 2 days ago

[–]controversial_views 1 point 1 day ago

Why are you even friends with her? She has a boyfriend and she is not attracted to you. I bet she really likes having you around because she knows that you are into her and who doesn't like attention?

Here is a good comment from a recent discussion on the subject of friendzone in a different subreddit:

"[...] you should make sure you're being honest with yourself.

Ask yourself a couple questions.

If this girl offered you sex or a sexual relationship would you turn it down under any circumstance?

[...]

Do you derive value from the current relationship? Whether it be her having a hot group of friends for you to meet [...] or otherwise providing value to your life, is this someone you would choose to spend time with platonically?

If not, I would classify this person as an acquaintance, not a friend.

It's important to take some time for introspection and really try to analyze your motives. If you answer yes to both of these questions, then sure, you're probably friends.

Most of the time, when a man and a woman are "just friends," the woman gains value from the "friendship" but rules out any sexual relation. For men, it's the exact opposite."

[–]crypticdarkness[S] 1 point 1 day ago

[–]controversial_views 1 point 12 hours ago

If you are fine with being just friends with her then why did you post this feel? Seeing your crush with another guy hurts you and you are too weak to do anything about it. You are so into her that you are willing to stop whatever you are doing and run to be a doormat for her AND her boyfriend under the guise of being her friend. That's pathetic.

A woman wants a strong, confident (masculine) man. A leader. If this is what you do on a regular basis for her she knows that you are the complete opposite of that. She knows that you will always be there for her, secretly hoping that she will reward you with sex for being such a good "friend" because you can't find anyone else. If you keep contact with one woman who rejected you and still have feelings for her it shows that you are undesirable by other women, which is a massive turnoff. So no, she will never fall in love with you no matter how much you try to please her.

If this is the man you really want to be, feel free to call yourself a nice guy and keep suffering. I am sorry for being so harsh but this is the truth. I went through all of that many times and being friends with your crush only led to negative emotions.

Read this: http://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2011/09/19/playing-friends/
This article talks about the exact type of "friendship" you have with your crush. Also, check out /r/TheRedPill. There is plenty of information to help men like you.

[–]crypticdarkness[S] 1 point 11 hours ago

I really, really disagree that it's pathetic. I also disagree that every single woman wants a strong confident masculine man.

Or a leader.

And holy shit man, not every single guy wants to get laid! Get your mind out of the gutter, stop believing every single stereotype you hear.

And if the "fact" that liking someone means that I'm "undesirable" by other women, then I really don't see why anyone would want to talk to anyone about feelings, if it just means you'd become undesirable.

Did I say that I want her to fall in love with me? No, I didn't.

Remember, not everyone is just like you. I'm fine with living with pain. It's who I am, it's how I live, and I don't care. I'm masochistic, even in my emotional life.

One of the links above said, "Women have boyfriends and girlfriends. If you're not fucking her, you're her girlfriend."

That's one of the most offensive things I've ever heard, and that's really saying a lot, based off of the things I've heard.

You know, it's people like you that lead to the stereotype that every guy just wants to get laid, and that guys have no emotions. I don't care what the hell you think, not everyone is the same, and not everyone has the same mindset that you do.

Today, there still are guys out there that are okay with staying friends. I guarantee there are more like me.

If you believe that "not fucking her" makes you less of a man, I have no words to even challenge you with anymore, because all you'll do is compare your "masculinity" and all the poor girls you've fucked, and tell us how how big your dick is, just so you can rub it in everyone else's face that you're so much more powerful than us.

I don't think I've been disgusted in a while, but the way you're approaching this has made me feel such contempt for people like you, for people that just spit out every single stereotype that they just heard yesterday.

[–]controversial_views 1 point 10 hours ago

I also disagree that every single woman wants a strong confident masculine man.

Then why are all the nice guys still single? They will never approach a woman and make a move straight away, instead they will get the "let's just be friends" rejection and post a self-pitying image macro about getting friendzoned. Of course, there are women who desire shy and inexperienced men but they are clearly in the minority.

Unlike pickup artists, I am not after casual sex and I have never been. I didn't use any routines, lines or tactics and treated women like human beings. And you know what happened? I got friendzoned every time. If your method fails every time something needs to be adjusted. After reading /r/seduction for a while I decided to see if their methods were effective. I was blown away by how much more responsive women were to game than the regular nice guy "friend" approach.

If women were attracted to shy/awkward/beta men, the seduction scene would be significantly smaller. From what I have seen, most guys get into this stuff because they just want a girlfriend, someone to love. If the cliché "be yourself" advice worked, there would be no demand for game.

That's one of the most offensive things I've ever heard, and that's really saying a lot.

I was also extremely offended by seduction material the first time I read it. Since then I spent about 4 months publicly making fun of pickup artists and their "creepy" behaviour. When I hit rock bottom, seriously considering suicide, I decided to give it a go since I didn't care anymore. I thought the ends would justify the means.

I'm fine with living with pain. It's who I am, it's how I live, and I don't care. I'm masochistic, both physically and emotionally.

When it gets to the point you can't deal with it anymore, you will look for ways to eliminate the pain and find the very resources I am pointing you to.

I want to end this by saying that the information is out there. It's offensive, immoral, sexist. You can call it whatever you want but it is known to have helped many men like you and me. When you desperately need help you will overlook the stigma that surrounds it.

[–]crypticdarkness[S] 1 point 8 hours ago

Did I say that all nice guys are single? That's not true.

And you won't "get friendzoned every time." My best relationships have come out of me being myself.

Just because when YOU tried to be yourself and no one wanted you, it doesn't mean that every other nice guy out there is as undesirable as you are.

I'm a nice guy, and I can approach a woman and make a move straight away. Just because I'm nice doesn't mean I won't make a move if I feel that there's a chance there.

How are you "not into casual sex?" If you have to go to the internet to learn how to attract a woman, I would say that's pretty pathetic.

You say you're treating women as human beings, but in a few sentences, you just say how you tested out "methods" on how to attract a woman, based on tactics that other men have tried out?

How is that not using them?

And remember, you said "From what I have seen, most guys get into this stuff because they just want a girlfriend, someone to love."

Key words, "From what I have seen."

You haven't seen everyone. You must have a disturbingly bleak outlook on life if you assume that "be yourself" never has worked before. The relationships that I've had, both sexual and romantic, have all been because I was "being myself."

I don't try and present myself as an overly masculine man, and I don't make promises that I can't keep.

If I go for a relationship, it's not because all I want to do is fuck them and leave them.

I applaud how you're bowing out early.

And one more thing, don't you EVER compare you to myself.

I am NOTHING like you, and I'm very proud of it.

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Now, I can't figure out how to get the indent to go away..

So we're just going to type with it there.

Shh, don't look at it.

Maybe it'll get bored and wander off.

Anyway.

So, I realize that I got a little heated in this discussion.

And I freely admit that I might have stopped making sense just because I got so pissed off.

I don't want you to think that I'm so proud of that post that I refuse to see any problems with it.

I also probably missed a couple things I should have tried to counter, but.. Well, it's as good as I could do when I was beyond angry.

Alright, furious.

I'll try to explain why!

I don't know if this is exactly what he meant, but I took it that way.

I think he was trying to tell me that the fact that I have a crush on a girl and I'm not trying to get in her pants, and that I'm okay with putting her feelings first, even if it upsets me, that it makes me less of a man.

If you have read any of my blogs, you probably can tell that I really, really, really hate that type of male stereotype.

I mean... Well, look at me! I'm the exact opposite of the male stereotype.

I'm not ripped,

I don't have to bang every girl I meet,

Just because I'm friends with a girl doesn't mean I'm trying to get in her pants,

I have a very feminine side.

It kind of comes with being a bisexual guy.

I guess.. I don't know how to summarize all of this.

But needless to say, it made my day horrible just by reading those comments, and having to put into thought my own opinion without just turning into a raving maniac who insults his personal life and doesn't make any real statements.

I can't even put into words how much I despise that stereotype, and how much contempt I feel for the fact that he assumes that every guy always wants to get laid, and that he's so confident that he's right that he compares me to him, and tells me how to pick up chicks, because obviously I'm not capable of making decisions for myself.

JUST because I can have a crush on a girl and allow her feelings to come first.

JUST because I don't put my issues in front of hers.

JUST because I can let my emotions sit in a corner, and try to care for someone else before I worry about myself.

I'm furious.

Now, I know his life is different, and I know he sees things a different way!

His circumstances were different, his brain is wired differently, he's been brought up differently.

I can understand that!

But when he assumes that all guys are the same, when he tells me that what works for one guy works for all of us, when he talks about trying out different methods to pick up chicks because he isn't confident in himself, and therefore we all need to read "/r/seduction" because NO girl could EVER want someone who is comfortable with being himself?

No. That's when I get angry.

It's..

GAH.

I just hate people sometimes.

A lot of the time.

Most of the time.

Particularly men.

And girls.

And spiders.

But not kittens.

I like kittens.

Alright.

Rant is done.

I could go on for a few days, but I'll talk about my day now.

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So, aside from that, my day was good.

I tried to apply to a job, but all they were looking for were management positions.

Sadly.

Uhhhhhh... I rearranged my computer desk!

I ordered a VGA cable splitter.

Because I'm going to have 2 monitors along with my laptop screen!

I'll post a picture when I get it.

For my birthday, I'm going to try and save up to get an HD monitor.

4 SCREENS. I CAN LOOK AT 4 SUBREDDITS AT ONCE.

BWAHAHAHAHAHA.

SO MANY KITTENS.

So that'll be fun.

Dude. I'm cuddled and wound up in my blanket around my head.

I wonder if this is how Jawas feel.

I played some League today, and had a fantastic time.

I played Xin Zhao.

And listened to this for all 3 of my games.

It's just IMPOSSIBLE to be angry while listening to this.
I shouted the lyrics in all chat, and told people how to be a MAN.

It was so much fun.

So later, I went to Narghile Nights (hookah bar) with Bethany and Ben!

It was a great time. I love those two.

We just sat and talked for a while.

Then we went to McDonald's. Yum, fattening.

I had a small thing of fries and a small M&M McFlurry.

Not too bad.

I just have to not eat for a week!

That'll even it out, right?

I did some talking with Bethany, and I've decided that I'm going to try and explore my more.. Gay side.

So we made plans to go get a manicure sometime soon, and have a Channing Tatum movie marathon.

And maybe throw some Joseph Gordon-Levitte in there.

And Johnny Depp.

So, how about right now..

Depressed.

Now, I know that I can avoid this by going to bed early.

Mom encourages me to do that.

But.. Eh. I'm okay with being depressed for a few hours out of the day.

I mean, it was for a few years straight, so a few hours a day?

It's not as bad as it used to be.

Although, the interesting thing is that unlike before, I can pinpoint the exact things that are making me feel this way!

Honestly...

I'd rather take depression with no clear cause rather than knowing what it is that makes me feel this way.

It'd be much more comforting to me.

If you have some sort of depression problems, you know exactly what I mean.

If not...
Whoa, look behind you! It's Batman!

Oh wait, he's gone.

HE IS THE NIGHT.

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Sigh.

Alright, I'm going to go watch funny things.

I know that it won't help, but I just need something to do before bed.

Opah!

To the internet!

-Nolan

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